All relationships are built on communication. Whether a business relationship, family relationship, or a romantic relationship, the foundation of a healthy and productive relationship is communication.
A person can have the best intentions and ideas in the world, but if it is not communicated properly, it can come off completely contrary to the intentions of the individual.
Communication is arguably the most crucial and empowering skills to have.
Confrontation, a crucial aspect of communication, is something that lacks in much of the world today, as evident in many of the passive-aggressive Tumblr rants, gossip, and impulsive acts of people and groups.
Healthy confrontation doesn’t attack people personally – Healthy confrontation seeks only to share how a specific act or words made you feel. It isn’t riddled with name-calling, labeling, insulting, or other emotionally-driven attacks. If someone has a problem, healthy confrontation doesn’t mean talking badly about someone to other people.
Healthy confrontation is actively communicated, not passively hidden – Healthy confrontation doesn’t hide feelings or emotions, it is an act of being open and honest with the other party about how you feel, even if the problem is on your end. Healthy confrontation seeks to resolve feelings and problems instead of hide or suppress them.
Healthy confrontation doesn’t seek revenge – Confrontation is not about seeking revenge, repayment, or even feelings of regret and sorrow. Confrontation is not about getting retribution.
Healthy confrontation listens and understands – Healthy confrontation, although it is about being open and transparent about how you feel, also listens and understand what the other party has to say. Actually listening to another person’s story and perspective shows that you actually care about the relationship.